Tim Ursiny

    The Coward's Guide to Conflict

    Empowering Solutions for Those Who Would Rather Run Than Fight
    282 pages

    As a coach, you'll be called on often to help your clients sort through and effectively face their conflicts at work and at home. This down-to-earth book, written from a coaching perspective, provides practical tools and language for dealing with conflict in a healthy way.

    Learn how to deal with conflict with skill and confidence with the help of coach, author and psychologist Tim Ursiny. You'll learn to identify your own conflict style (as well as the style of your coaching clients), motivate yourself to face conflict, and learn tools strategies to succeed in these difficult conversations. Tim also teaches you how to avoid the top 10 mistakes made when dealing with upset people.

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    Endorsements for The Coward's Guide to Conflict


    "If you are a coward like me when it comes to conflict, then this book could be perfect for you. I now appreciate the need for conflict, and I am getting even better dealing with it."
    Ken Blanchard, Coauthor, The One Minute Manager®

    "Dr. Tim speaks practically about how to face our fears of conflict. The Coward's Guide to Conflict is in a class by itself. Keep this book by your favorite chair because you'll want to refer to it often!
    David Bolz, Director, Human Resources, Morgan Stanley

    "Dr. Ursiny provides an entertaining and refreshing viewpoint on a topic that is critical to success in business. He demonstrates that dealing effectively with conflict is not only possible, it can be relatively easy when you listen to his practical advice. I highly recommend his book to those that want to improve productivity in their organization."
    Lanny Hoel, Assistant Vice President, Organization Development, Trustmark Insurance Company

    Table of Contents

    Section I: You're Not The Only One Out There Who Hates Conflict
       Chapter 1: Take The Coward Test
       Chapter 2: Seven Choices You Can Make In Conflict
       Chapter 3: The Top 10 Reasons That People Avoid Conflict
       Chapter 4: Why Change?

    Section II: How To Motivate Yourself To Deal With Conflict
       Chapter 5: The Secret For Motivating Yourself To Face Conflict
       Chapter 6: Confronting Your Fear One Step At A Time
       Chapter 7: How To Make Conflict Less Frightening Quickly
       Chapter 8: How Your Integrity Can Help You Face Conflict
       Chapter 9: Understanding When Conflict Is Actually A GOOD Thing
       Chapter 10: Building Your Knowledge, Skills, And Confidence

    Section III: Common Causes Of Conflict
       Chapter 11: We'd be fine if THEY weren't so different!
       Chapter 12: Why People Only Think That They Are Angry (Often They're Not!)
       Chapter 13: Five Ways To Listen And Why People Don't Use Them!
       Chapter 14: Four Communication Patterns To Use If You Want To KEEP Fighting
       Chapter 15: Don't Assume The Position!
       Chapter 16: The Role Of Selfishness
       Chapter 17: If Common Sense Is So Common, Then Why Don't They Have It?

    Section IV: You've Got The Tools, You've Got The Talent: Techniques To Handle Any Conflict
       Chapter 18: The Truth And Nothing But The Truth
       Chapter 19: Discussing Wants, Fairness, And Integrity
       Chapter 20: Assertiveness, Coward Style
       Chapter 21: Avoiding The Top Ten Mistakes Made When Dealing With Upset People
       Chapter 22: Talking About How You Are Talking
       Chapter 23: The Lesson Of The Swaying Trees: Embracing Conflict
       Chapter 24: Putting It All Together; A Step-By-Step Approach For Dealing With Conflict

    Conclusion: Is It Worth It and Can I Still Be a Coward?