Most coach training focuses on working with the rational mind using practical tools like goals, options and actions. The Invitation opens up a whole new realm by showing you how to work with the emotional side of the brain. Most behavior actually originates there, in our deep desires for things like love, belonging, significance or approval. When these desires are unmet, they spawn guardian beliefs and emotional memories we use to protect our heart from further harm. But these same masks and defenses are what become our greatest obstacles to living abundantly.
Jesus' way of heart change doesn't focus on fixing the problem, but on filling the unmet desires that caused it. (See James chapter 4 for a succinct explanation). Jesus' way does not depend on self-discipline or effort, but on encountering Him--and you can do it right in the midst of a coaching conversation. It's an incredibly beautiful, positive and powerful way to work at transformation. This book includes tools like:
A four level Model of the Heart that explains how behavior flows from desire
A questioning process called "Drilling Down" that leads from a surface emotion directly to beliefs, desires and emotional memories (wounds)
A method for easily creating powerful God-encounters by praying your desire
A set of tools for changing beliefs through creating different experiences (the heart learns from experience, not from rational dialog!)
How to use the Fellowship of Suffering to create intimate encounters with Jesus in the midst of loss, betrayal or grief
Bringing lies into the open with dangerous prayers
...and dozens more!
The Invitation makes coaching the heart practical. Packed with stories, examples, tools, and real-life dialogs, it's a book you'll refer to again and again.
Table of Contents
Introduction Section I: Change Jesus' Way Chapter 1: Jesus, the Desire-Filler Chapter 2: God of the Flatlanders Chapter 3: The Hidden Realm of Desire Section II: Knowing the Heart Chapter 4: How the Heart Works Chapter 5: Discovering Your Desires Chapter 6: True and Twisted Desires Section III: Transforming the Heart Chapter 7: The Desire-Filling Encounter Chapter 8: Living from Desire Chapter 9: Unmasking the Two Guardians Chapter 10: Changing Beliefs Chapter 11: Leaning In to the Process Glossary/Index Appendix A: The Coaching Approach Appendix B: Additional Resources
About the Author
Tony Stoltzfus has spent 20 years doing transformational coaching and working with the heart with leaders around the world. In he shares the stories and skills of how he changes lives through encounters with Jesus.
"You've hit another home run. Texas
"This is the book I've been waiting for." Missionary
"The videos are awesome! That's such a great addition to the book."
"I just wanted to take the times to share a moment I had this morning while reading The Invitation. At the end of chapter 1 you have an exercise where you see if any beliefs sound familiar. Since I am a recovering rational 'good Christian' thinker this was a bit challenging as my mind started in with 'eh, I don't think these apply' when #7 kind of hit me. So, when you said to take the belief to Jesus, I did so almost half-heartedly. As I closed my eyes and asked Jesus what he thought about my belief that I cannot have the relationship like others do with Him, after a moment I heard Him. He told me he wants a relationship with me that cannot compare and surpasses what I see (or think I see) in His relationship with others. It made me tear up and realize that time looking and comparing is wasted time, time I could spend getting to know Him and better understand His love for me. And man, this is just chapter 1!?! Just had to share and say thank you."