One of the biggest stumbling blocks for beginning coaches is the quest for the Holy Grail: the coaching question that will unlock the secrets of the universe for the client. Before each question there is a long, awkward pause while we search our mind for just the right thing to say—and meanwhile the momentum of the conversation is lost. Continue reading “Seeking the “One True Coaching Question””
“Can you give us some more great coaching questions? Do you have a list of them anywhere?” Fielding that request over and over in coach training workshops provided the original impetus to write Coaching Questions. It’s a way to share some of the great questions I’ve collected and used (or that have popped into my head in key moments) with you. Continue reading “Coaching Questions for Your Future”
Why ask? What’s the benefit of using coaching questions instead of advising or telling in a mentor or consultant role? Quite simply, questions hold the power to cause us think, create answers we believe in, and motivate us to act on our ideas. Asking moves us beyond passive acceptance of what others say, or staying stuck in present circumstances, to aggressively applying our creative ability to the problem.
Questions also redefine relationships between people. When I am advising, mentoring or consulting, I’m the expert. My role makes me your superior (at least in knowledge). But when I’m asking you for your ideas, I’m a peer. Questions honor you as a person and communicate your value as an equal.
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The search for life meaning and purpose is as old as humanity itself. In some of his first words to mankind, God gave Adam and Eve a life mission: “Be fruitful and multiply, and fill the earth, and subdue it…” Our sense of purpose about life is rooted in the way we were made. We all have an instinctive yearning to do and be something, to make our lives count, to stand before our Creator and hear the words, “Well done” pronounced over our lives. Even before the fall, we were made to work, to steward and to shape our world.
When our basic life needs are met, at some point we all turn toward the bigger life meaning questions. Who am I? Where can I find joy and fulfillment in life? What is my purpose? What does God want me to do with what he’s given me?
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