We all go through transitional seasons. Usually there is an awkward period where the old role or old way of thinking no longer fits, but the new thing has yet to come about. This can be a purely internal shift in our mode of ministry that happens while we keep the same job in the same community. But most often it is accompanied by external factors that reflect the internal: we switch jobs or careers and have a period of unemployment between, we go on sabbatical, we relocate. In these transitions, the act of waiting in our external circumstances reflects what God is doing in our hearts. In both cases, we have to wait on God to move us forward in his time. We can no more make the seasons of our hearts change than we can make the winter go by faster. Continue reading “Transitional Seasons: Waiting for Our Destiny”
January is when our eyes optimistically turn to the year ahead. What will I accomplish this year? What are my dreams? What do I want to change? However, new-year’s resolutions rarely address the persistent obstacles that sabotage our efforts. One major roadblock to change is what coaches call self-talk: the messages we habitually or unconsciously tell ourselves about who we are and how life works. Below are eight common self-talk messages. Maybe one is defeating you! Continue reading “How to Let Your Self-Talk Defeat You”
Recently, a client (in training as a coach) posed an interesting question…”Can you coach anyone to peak performance?” The implication of the question was that there might be some people that just cannot perform at a level that yields excellence. What about coaching responsibility?
At the risk of being overly dogmatic, I just can’t imagine such a situation. Frankly, if I felt that no amount of coaching with a receptive client who truly desired change would lead to improvement, my integrity would force me to seek a different profession. Continue reading “Coaching Responsibility”
If you’ve never looked into finding a coach before, here are some tips on how to go about it. First, let’s look at what a personal coaching relationship looks like. You’ll meet two to three times a month with your personal coach, for 30 to 60 minutes each time (different coaches offer different packages of services). You’ll choose what you want to work on, the action steps you want to take, and set your own pace. Finding a coach helps you focus your ideas into goals and action steps, offers a listening ear and challenging questions that get you thinking, and provides the support and accountability you need to follow through.