Feedback: Friend or Foe

“Let me give you some feedback.”

feedbackAnyone who’s heard this phrase in a staff meeting knows that these simple words are usually loaded with a punch. Unsolicited feedback is often interpreted as…”Here’s what I think you need to change” which can have the effect of a small land mine exploding in your lap. Those giving it are often well-intentioned—however those who are on the receiving end naturally become defensive and skeptical. Continue reading “Feedback: Friend or Foe”

Judo Coaching: Redirecting Energy Toward the Coaching Goal

Redirect the energy back to the coaching goalOver the last month or two, your client John’s coaching goal has been rethinking his work flow, time-management and getting more work done with less stress. He’s been working diligently to make a change, but today he has something completely different on his mind: a great new job opportunity. It’s an exciting thing to talk through, and John is passionate about the opportunity. But your concern as his coach is that you are two thirds of the way through making a very important and needed change in John’s life, and suddenly he is ready to completely dump that coaching goal. What do you do? Continue reading “Judo Coaching: Redirecting Energy Toward the Coaching Goal”

Up Your Active Listening Game by Eliminating Distractions

Active Listening DistractionsOne important way to improve your active listening  ability is to identify and eliminate distractions in your environment with this coaching tool. You can be great at many other facets of listening, but if your phone line is full of static or you are constantly interrupted, you’ll still find it very difficult to listen well. True active listening intently is hard work. Often simple changes like taking a few minutes before a meeting to get centered, purchasing a phone headset, or turning off your computer monitor while you are coaching can make a big difference. Continue reading “Up Your Active Listening Game by Eliminating Distractions”

Life Purpose

life purposeLife purpose is a rising movement that has been shaping the church over the last ten years and will be a major influence for the next generation. Just as the “visionary leadership” concept has been at the forefront of the way churches are led for the last season, the coming wave seems to be helping people to discover and fulfill their personal destiny. I believe God is continuing a move that began with the charismatic renewal two generations ago—unleashing and fully activating lay people, so that everyone in his body is a vital contributor to the Kingdom. Continue reading “Life Purpose”